I just read Kim Kardashian’s “essay” on how she is empowered by her body, her sexuality and being comfortable in her own skin. (Kim K. article is below)
That is wonderful that she is able to feel that comfortable with herself and that she can take it all it off showing what the Good Lord gave her. There are not a lot of people who have that kind of confidence.
However, I do think there are other ways to empower women. I think that such campaigns as “Free the Nipple” are just defeating the causes for women. Honestly I think antics such as this actually push us back a little. Can we be more than sexy?
For a long time, and I believe this is still true, women who were pretty were not smart and women who were average were. Example Sarah Palin and Hilary Clinton. If half the stuff Plain said came out of Clinton’s mouth would we still think it was stupid? Remember the saying, “He won’t marry a Marilyn, he will marry a Jackie.”
Personally, I am not sure if I am a feminist or if I am on board will all things that have to do with the Women’s Movement. However, when it is intelligently done, such as with the causes that Emma Watson is involved in I seem to pay more attention. She is bringing serious attention to the cause HeForShe. The thing that I like about this cause is that they are not excluding men. Actually they are wanting the men in our lives to be more aware of the things that goes on in a woman’s life.
In her speech to the UN on 20, September 2014 she says “The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of the political, economical and social equality of the sexes.” Emma Watson Speech
Now I am speaking for myself when I say things such as “Free the Nipple” and Kim Kardashian posting nudes actually make me feel as though we just took several steps back. I am not saying that the only way we, as women, can be taken serious is if we dress like professors or supreme court justices. What I am saying is we have come so far in such a short amount of time. We have over come not being able to vote (1919), and being able to join the workforce. Sadly we have not over come women bashing women.
If I started this out as bashing Kim Kardashian that was not my intent. What I wanted to say is this, I honestly do not find her posting nudes as “empowering”. I do not think subjecting ourselves the way “most of society” sees us is how we should be representing ourselves. There is nothing wrong with being sexy. There is nothing wrong with wearing that tight little black dress you love so much. But there is something wrong with asking the world to look you in the eye and take you seriously when you are trying to “empower” women while your tits are showing.
“Hey, guys. I wanted to write a post elaborating on my tweets last night. In all seriousness, I never understand why people get so bothered by what other people choose to do with their lives.
I don’t do drugs, I hardly drink, I’ve never committed a crime—and yet I’m a bad role model for being proud of my body?
It always seems to come back around to my sex tape. Yes, a sex tape that was made 13 years ago. 13 YEARS AGO. Literally that lonnng ago. And people still want to talk about it?!?!
I lived through the embarrassment and fear, and decided to say who cares, do better, move on. I shouldn’t have to constantly be on the defense, listing off my accomplishments just to prove that I am more than something that happened 13 years ago.
Let’s move on, already. I have.
I am empowered by my body. I am empowered by my sexuality. I am empowered by feeling comfortable in my skin. I am empowered by showing the world my flaws and not being afraid of what anyone is going to say about me. And I hope that through this platform I have been given, I can encourage the same empowerment for girls and women all over the world.
I am empowered by my husband, who is so accepting and supportive and who has given me a newfound confidence in myself. He allows me to be me and loves me unconditionally.
I feel so lucky to have grown up surrounded by strong, driven, independent women. The life lessons I’ve learned from my sisters, my mother and my grandmother, I will pass along to my daughter. I want her to be proud of who she is. I want her to be comfortable in her body. I don’t want her to grow up in a world where she is made to feel less-than for embracing everything it means to be a woman.
It’s 2016. The body-shaming and slut-shaming—it’s like, enough is enough. I will not live my life dictated by the issues you have with my sexuality. You be you and let me be me.
I am a mother. I am a wife, a sister, a daughter, an entrepreneur and I am allowed to be sexy.
Brian Bowen Smith